# Kirsten Monks - Relationship Coaching

Kirsten Monks offers integrative relationship coaching from Totnes, helping clients create happier, healthier relationships by addressing the internal patterns that shape how they connect with others. Rather than focusing solely on relationship dynamics, her approach recognises that "the relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have"—meaning lasting change begins with self-awareness and personal growth.

She works with clients navigating a wide spectrum of relational challenges: those struggling in current partnerships, going through separation or divorce, recovering from toxic or narcissistic abuse, managing single parenthood, or feeling isolated whilst single. Her expertise spans attachment styles (anxious and avoidant patterns), communication skills, boundary setting, co-parenting complexities, and blended family dynamics. She also supports clients dealing with relational anxiety, trauma, loss, and low self-esteem.

What distinguishes Kirsten's practice is her integrative methodology, which moves beyond surface-level problem-solving to examine the deeper patterns and beliefs influencing relationship choices and behaviours. Her coaching programmes are structured around three core areas: creating healthy relationships, navigating separation and divorce, and healing attachment-related anxiety. Testimonials reveal transformative outcomes, with clients reporting they've moved from exhausting, cyclical relationship patterns to building partnerships characterised by respect, trust, safety and genuine happiness. Her philosophy is clear: healthy relationships aren't complicated—they simply require looking inwards first.